By Robert B Andrews MA, LMFT
The USAG sexual abuse scandal has rocked the gymnastics community to its core. Many are questioning what went wrong, while others seek to maintain the status quo.
Certainly the focus needs to be on healing the wounds that this horrendous abuse has caused, and educating coaches, gym owners, administrators, parents, and athletes. Perhaps an overhaul of the leadership body of USAG is in order, as is being called for by many.
Very prominent gymnasts are speaking up. They are courageously vocal about their treatment in the USAG system.
The deeper question that must be asked is what made the gymnastics community vulnerable to this type of abuse? And why was it kept hidden by USAG for so long?
I worked with the U.S.A. mens national, world, and Olympic gymnasts, and teams from 2007 to 2012. I resigned from this position after the London Olympics for what I, and others in the system saw as a failure to address key leadership issues that led to poor performances in the 2012 Olympic games. Unfortunately these same program deficiencies were still in place for the 2016 Rio Olympics and the men’s team had another disappointing almost identical performance.
I worked with Simone Biles for 3 1/2 years before the 2016 Rio Olympics. She been very vocal about our work together. I did not work directly with the women’s program as I did with the men. But I have worked with many gymnasts in the USA Women’s National program. From this work I was able to gain a deep understanding of the inner workings of the women’s system and the culture that was in place.
In my work with gymnasts of all levels, throughout the United States, and other countries, I have seen many different cultures from program to program and gym to gym.
One disturbing theme I have seen in many, not all, but many gyms, and in my individual work with many male and female gymnasts from all over the United States is a culture of disempowerment.
Many gymnasts in the U.S.A, and perhaps many other countries are taught:
Don’t challenge or question a coach’s authority.
Don’t have a voice or speak up to address any concerns you have as a gymnasts.
Don’t utilize personal power in your relationship with your coach.
Don’t complain about the way you are being treated.
If a gymnasts breaks any of these “cultural norms” they are subjected to an increasingly harsh retaliatory set of behaviors from coaches and others in the system.
This sets in place a dangerous dynamic between coach and athlete.
Yelling, screaming, shaming, degrading, and humiliation are the first shaping behavior the coach uses to mold the gymnasts into a silent participant in this dance.
The usual response to this harsh treatment by the coach is that the gymnasts shuts down. They get quiet, turn inward, become highly emotional, cry, and get easily frustrated. They tend to make more mistakes.
This causes the coach to become even more frustrated, and absent of the coaching skills or interpersonal tools required to handle the athlete in this state, the coach becomes more agitated and turns to physical punishment.
They implement rope climbs as a form of punishment, running as a way of letting the athlete know that coach is not pleased with their behavior and training. They kick the gymnasts out of the gym, or send them home, the ultimate form of humiliation. They call this conditioning. I understand that conditioning is a critical component of gymnastics training. This retaliatory behavior is not healthy conditioning. It is abuse.
Some coaches stop coaching gymnasts who don’t follow the rules.
The Victim-Abuser Dynamic
Now the coach has become part of the problem. Where an athlete might have had natural fears about difficult skills, or returning from injury, now the athletes brain sees the coach as a threat.
More and more of their brain power is channeled into protecting themselves from their coach’s wrath instead of improving gymnastics skills. I asked one athlete who was being treated harshly by their coach how much of their mental and emotional energy was going into gymnastics and how much was going into protecting themselves from their coach. Their answer was alarming, 20% gymnastics, 80% defending themselves from their coach.
This sets in place the victim-angry coach dynamic. The athlete becomes the victim. Has no voice. Can’t speak up or defend themselves. They can’t communicate fear, injuries, or concern about the coaches coaching style for fear of retaliation.
They start focusing more on avoiding the coach’s anger and become terrified of making mistakes. What used to be a fun sport for them has now become an anxiety producing experience.
I have worked with gymnasts who sit in their car and cry before they go into the gym, because they are terrified of going to practice. I have worked with gymnasts whose coach stopped coaching them during competitions because they were so frustrated and disappointed with their gymnasts. Not only is this unethical, it is dangerous.
I witnessed this dynamic in the men’s program. There were instances where scores were changed that effected the outcomes of meets, athletes found their own sponsors and suffered scrutiny for doing so, favoritism was given to certain athletes.
Coaches and athletes were trained not to speak up or challenge the system.
Coaches and athletes were first met with anger, then displeasure and silence. Assignments might be taken away or not given out. A coach might miss out on an important assignment for rocking the boat.
The Abuse Follows Our Gymnasts
An Olympic pole vaulter that I worked with when they competed is now a pole vault coach. I had breakfast with them recently and they ask me what was going on with gymnastics? They went on to tell me that they have a lot of former gymnast come to them to start pole vaulting. This coach told me that these former gymnasts are all the same. They are quiet, very introverted, afraid to make mistakes, afraid that they will be yelled at by their new coach, and are afraid to let the coach know when they are injured.
This coach has spent a lot of time and energy retraining them. They have had to teach their athletes that they can speak up, be vocal, communicate with their coach, let them know about injuries, and most importantly make their new sport fun.
You see the trend…
Time for Solutions!
I have been one of the more vocal and outspoken voices for change over the last 5 years.
I have complained enough. Now I want to suggest changes that must be made to create a new culture in USA Gymnastics.
- We must educate our athletes! They must be taught what healthy, appropriate athlete-coach interaction and relationships should be. They must learn that they have the power to set boundaries and limits with coaches who treat them abusively. They must be taught that there is a leadership body in place that will hear their voices and handle their complaints and concerns quickly and efficiently. They must learn that gymnastics can be fun again.
- We must educate the silent parents of our gymnasts. Too many parents have sat back and said nothing when their child/athlete has been humiliated, ridiculed, abused mentally, emotionally, physically, sexually, and spiritually. These parents have been afraid to speak up for fear of retaliation against their child/athlete. Many are afraid to speak up because their coach might treat their child/athlete worse, stop coaching them, or kick them off the team. The gymnasts don’t want to leave the gym because they don’t want to leave their friends, even though they are being treated abusively by their coach. They are afraid to move to another gym because they might end up with another abusive coach. So the gymnasts remains stuck in an abusive bind. I have recommended parents contact USAG several times over the last 10 years. I suggest that they read the Coaches Code of Conduct out loud to “leadership”. One parent received the following reply to their complaint, “what am I supposed to do?”.
- We must educate coaches about the new and evolving culture that so many of us want and demand in gymnastics. This must be a culture that goes beyond teaching gymnastics skills and teaches coaches about human development, personal empowerment, conflict resolution, stress management, sexual abuse, and personal accountability. Coaching workshops that address these core concepts and others must be mandatory at USAG Congress, and Regional meetings.
- We must demand a leadership body that is accountable to creating safe, positive, and empowering environments for our gymnasts. I have hit the wall that has existed in the current USAG system. I have been shouted down in post Olympic meetings for attempting to hold “leaders” accountable for their actions that led to disastrous performances by talented athletes. This has trickled down to local gyms where I have taught gymnasts and parents how to be vocal and empowered in the face of abusive coaches. I have had gym owners and coaches label me as the “bad guy” for educating these same parents and gymnasts. These gym owners and coaches don’t allow me access to their teams and gymnasts any longer, and stop referring me athletes. The message they are clearly sending is that they would rather continue in their toxic culture, than learn and grow as a gym owner and coach. Leadership always starts at the top. Demanding a leadership body that will implement this new culture will begin the trickle down process that will eventually work its way down to the club level. But we must educate!
Working with Simone Biles allowed me to see that this approach works. Simone and her parents have been very vocal about my work with Simone, speaking openly in Texas Monthly Magazine, ESPNW, The LA Times, Washington Post, and other media. Simone’s parents and other family members understand their role and strive to be supportive to Simone. They feed positive energy into the system. Simone’s coach Aimee Boorman understands that Simone must be authentic to be her best. She must show up on the floor being Simone. She understands that Simone must trust her, that they must be able to work through conflict and resolve differences for Simone to reach the remarkable level of gymnastics that she has achieved. Simone’s parents and coaches are not threatened by me or my feedback into the system, rather they embrace it and strive to make the athlete, coach, parent triangle as strong and powerful as it can be.
This same systemic approach is exactly what USAG needs on a much larger scale.
I work with gyms all over the United States and Canada that are working with this empowering approach to gymnastics. They are open to learning more. They set up workshops for their gymnast, coaches, and parents to help continue to improve their culture.
I know of coaches in the USAG system who understand this new model for coaching our gymnasts. They understand that personal empowerment, respect, and mutuality are key components to producing top athletes.
Unfortunately I still work with gymnasts who have coaches who insist on continuing to rage, scream, yell, degrade, embarrass, punish and kick them out of the gym. In many instances, for making mistakes.
The USAG leadership merry go round continues to turn. Hirings and firings are common place.
Will we have leadership in place that is interested in creating a new paradigm and a new culture community wide? Or will the status quo continue?
I intend to continue to be a voice for our gymnasts and educate them, their parents and their coaches. Things have to change.