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Toxic Coaching – Out With The Old In With The New

May 30, 2013 by Robert Andrews 4 Comments

The recent media attention on the hiring of new Rutgers Athletic Director Julie Hermann adds even more fuel to the fire over the treatment of athletes by coaches at all levels. Julie Hermann was hired as the new AD at Rutgers in spite of her alleged mistreatment of volleyball players at Tennessee where she was the coach.  Hermann was also named in a sexual discrimination lawsuit during her tenure at Louisville.  These are allegations that happened years ago but bring to light the treatment of athletes is THE topic in sports media today.

All of this comes on the heals of the video that shows Rutgers basketball coach Mike Rice throwing basketballs at his players heads, cussing and berating them, pushing players and shouting racial slurs.  These behaviors lead to Rice’s firing and the firing of AD Tim Pernetti for his mis-handling of the matter.

Social media has created a platform that puts abusive behavior towards athletes center stage.

A college golf coach goes on a 10 minute profanity filled tirade directed towards his players and it is recorded on a cell phone.

A high school baseball coach cusses out his players after a game. The rant is recorded by a player, put on the Internet and goes viral.

These are examples of the stories we hear about because of the Internet and social media.

Epidemic of Toxic Coaches  

There are many other stories we don’t hear about because of tolerant cultures that employ these types of abusive coaches. These cultures enable coaches to be physically, emotionally, mentally, and psychologically abusive towards their players.  There is a dysfunctional system in place that tolerates, protects, and in some instances encourages this type of treatment towards athletes.

I received a call from a parent recently who told me about his child’s treatment by a successful high school coach.  This coach berated, humiliated, embarrassed, and belittled this kid every day. This kid was ready to quit their sport.

I saw another high school athlete who came in because they were having anxiety and panic attacks.  The attacks started every day after lunch when it was getting close to practice time.  During practice this athlete would be cussed out, raged upon, humiliated and berated by an assistant coach while all the other players and coaches, including the head coach watched.

Last year I saw three players from the same team who all told the exact same story of being mentally,  emotionally, and psychologically intimated and abused by the same coach. If the parents stepped in the coach turned on them too.

I have seen college athletes, professionals, junior high and high school athletes, Pop Warner and little league athletes all telling me similar stories of abuse from many different sports.

Mistreatment and Playing Time Blackmail

Many of these players continue playing on with their teams because they loved the game and loved being around their teammates.  They were willing to tolerate this horrendous treatment because they wanted to be connected to their sport, their team, and their teammates.

When I asked the parents why they don’t challenge the coach I hear “the coach will stop playing my son/daughter’ “the coach will turn on me”, “it is the kiss of death to challenge this coach, they will take it out on my son or daughter”, “things will only get worse if I do”.

The coaches have trained the system to tolerate abusive behavior.  Players and athletes don’t speak up because their are serious consequences for challenging the  status quo.

Power versus Powerless

These abusive coaches have set up a dynamic where they have all the power and the athletes have very little and in some instances no power.  The coach rules with threats, intimidation, rage, humiliation, and in some cases physical attacks like pushing, grabbing around the throat or face mask, and slapping.  Any attempt by the athlete to speak up or ask for help is dealt with quickly and sharply as a message to other players that they better not challenge the coaches authority.

Athletes who feels powerless are easily frustrated, don’t handle mistakes well, are terrified of making mistakes, can be overly emotional or shut down, are not very coachable, and are more prone to suffer injuries.  They also play with very little passion.

The New Paradigm in Coaching

Today’s coaches are at a very significant crossroad.  Coaches usually coach the way they were coached.  They also coach based upon how they were treated and what they have learned along the way as coaches.

CoachingEducation is a key to shifting this paradigm away from the authoritarian/abusive way of coaching and towards a model of respect, compassion, learning life lessons, accountability, integrity, and consequences.

The Internet and social media are going to continue to expose the old school ways of coaching.  Everyone carries a phone, camera, or I Pad to sporting events. We see coaches on the sidelines grabbing, choking, and pushing during games and the cameras catch it.  The next day it is on ESPN, Twitter, YouTube, or Face Book.  The whole world has access to the treatment of athletes by coaches.

“It is easier to build up a child than it is to repair an adult. Choose your words wisely.”  

So why not take the time to learn a new more empowering and respectful way of coaching? There are great organization out there like the Positive Coaching Alliance and Navicore that created the CORE Multi Dimensional Awareness Profile (CORE Map) that offer powerful resources to help teach and educate this new empowering model to coaches of all levels.

The old way of coaching is fading away.  Kids are different these days and the harsh treatment that might work for one will cause a coach to lose most of the others who learn  best under the new model of coaching.

A positive momentum is changing the coaching paradigm.  Todays athletes don’t tolerate being treated poorly.  They don’t respond or play well under this negative type of coaching.  It is only a matter of time before the camera or cell phone catches up to dysfunctional behavior.

Asked for help and support, seek out guidance, find a mentor.  It is time to take action.

Filed Under: Sports Shut Down and the Mental and Emotional Impact on Athletes Tagged With: abusive coaching, Coaching, CORE Map, Julie Hermann, Navicore, PCA, Positive Coaching Alliance, Rutgers, Toxic Coaches

Comments

  1. Amy says

    August 26, 2013 at 1:16 pm

    What can a parent do if the coach will not self-evaluate and the suffering and abuse continues? To have our athlete quit means nothing changes and they lose the opportunity to compete in the sport they love and earned a spot on the team to represent their school.

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    • Robert Andrews says

      August 27, 2013 at 10:27 am

      It depends on the sport. I suggest checking to see if your sport has a governing body with a code of ethics or conduct. If so, file a complaint against this coach. Most have written codes that state “no mental, emotional, or psychological abuse.”. Other options are to find a new place or team to train and compete with. The worst thing for the athlete is to have the abuse continue.

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  2. Al Figone says

    May 13, 2015 at 8:25 am

    Report any incident to the Principal, the district, and learn the child abuse mandated reporter laws in your state. Act quickly and forcefully if you suspect. A demanding coach who wants hard to assist players is significantly different from a mentally abuse coach as he or she is secure, knowledgeable, good teacher, and diagnosis, corrects, evaluates technical flaws.

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    • Robert Andrews says

      July 31, 2016 at 9:20 pm

      Amen…well said. Sometimes parents have to work their way up the chain of command to stop the abuse. Thanks for the feedback.

      Reply

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